15 Kinky Things, Ideas And Sexual Fantasies Of Men

Research carried at the University of Ohio in 2011 concluded that men do think about sex about 19 times a day, 9 times more than women do. Also, while women fantasize more about romance, men fantasize about being kinky and exploratory, according to research done in 2012 by the University of Granada. So what are men’s sexual fantasies? Do men desire to implement these fantasies in real life? What is the most common male fantasy? What do guys fantasize about when they like a girl?

These questions may have crossed your mind at some point if you’re sexually active and involved with a man. As much as they’re demonized, fantasies can be great for your sex life. After all, they give you a break from the mundane day-to-day life and push you to explore your kinky side, beyond the usual sexual boundaries.

So, if you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life, an insight into what men fantasize about can be a good starting point to explore kinky things to try in the bedroom.

Men’s Sexual Fantasies Revealed

It comes as no surprise, does it? Just the way women have their share of fantasies, men do too. Men are not all that different from women. Mind you. The brain is the sexiest organ in the body, and that is where all the naughty ideas come from.

Men fantasize about things that given them much-needed excitement in the usual intimate affairs, and while they may not talk about them, fantasizing about sex and being a little exploratory is quite normal. In his head, it might be too wild or crazy for you and he might never want to share them, but he has plenty of sexual fantasies locked up.

If you do oblige, he will never stop thanking you. You might just become the woman of his dreams. And who knows, it may be the beginning of pushing the boundaries of your own sexuality too. But for any of it to come to pass, you need to know and understand male fantasy ideas.

To that end here is a lowdown on the 12 top common and riveting of men’s sexual fantasies:

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1. Demon dominatrix

What do guys fantasize about when they like a girl? Well, this is it. Women taking initiative is always a big turn-on for men. And why should men have to do the wooing and seducing all the time? One of the biggest kinks that men fantasize about is his woman in knee-high stilettos, netted stockings and a red bra covering just enough to let his mind run wild.

Oh, and a whip (possibly?). I mean what kind of Dominatrix would you be without the whip but we would advise you to keep the whipping to a minimum.

2. All sex under the sun

Like all the sex there is to have. Trying all crazy positions with no judgment whatsoever. Nothing is too crazy for them. It’s sex at the end of the day. Yes, it’s a common male fantasy to get experimental in bed.

So, the next time he suggests something different, keep an open mind about exploring beyond the usual. You could start by combining this idea with the first suggestion—try a position where you take the lead and embrace your confidence. Let your adventurous side come out as you enjoy the experience together Trust us, it’s what he secretly wishes for in bed.

3. Squirt her

Women are crazy conscious about this but this is the one thing men fantasize about over and over. That’s because nothing gives him a greater boost and satisfaction than seeing his partner ooze with pleasure.

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4: The daddy issue

It’s not necessarily women who bring Daddy issues to relationships. Men do too but in a very different manner. Some men like being called Daddy during sex. They might never in their right mind ask their girlfriends to call them Daddy but they sure would love it.

So, if your partner has joked about it in the past, count this among the kinky things to try with him. We guarantee it will turn him on to no end, and of course, lead to better sex. All you need is to let go of your inhibitions.

5: Get louder, get in public

Louder moans, groans, harder pulls. Telling him that you like just what he is doing, begging him to not stop, asking for more. This is the Holy Grail of men’s sexual fantasies. Whether your partner has given any hint about his experimental streak in bed or not, he sure desires this.

The louder encouragement they get, the better it is. It is also among the most common fantasy of a married man, who more often than not has to make do with sex on mute mode, especially if there are children in the house. Whenever the opportunity presents itself, surprise him with your moans and watch him go wild.

6. A threesome

Is it just a common male fantasy though? We wonder. Well, there is no denying that every man wants it. We suspect every woman wants it too. Or is at least a wee bit curious about what the experience would feel like. If it’s something everyone wants, why not keep an open mind about it.

Most commonly, male fantasy ideas revolved around a woman-man-woman threesome. A girl on girl action right before him, while he is getting ready, is like every man’s fantasy come true. Even if you’re not ready for the threesome experience in real life, you can always share your fantasies about it with each other. The verbal, imagined scenario alone is enough to fire up your sex life and how!

7. More oral

What do guys fantasize about when they like a girl? She going down on him and blowing his mind off with a mind-blowing blowjob definitely makes the cut. While he is imagining that, he might throw some deep-throat action into the mix. Because nothing else is as pleasurable as getting head from the woman they love.

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8. Voyeuristic pleasure

Among men’s sexual fantasies that extend far beyond the realm of dirty and naughty is this secret desire to watch other couples do it. It is a kinky pleasure, a guilty one. Now, this is one of those sexual fantasies that men (well, most of them anyway ) don’t act on – and rightly so – but then, talking about it can be a huge turn-on for them, and you’d be surprised to learn, for you too.

9. Filming the action

This is kink 101 among the long list of male fantasy ideas. It may be for pure sentimental value or out of curiosity of what it looks like when you’re both in the thick of the action but having a sex tape is definitely what almost all men secretly desire.

It is kinky in its own right and men love it. If you are looking for ways to seduce your partner and trust him enough, suggest recording the action and experience the magic unfold.

10. Try things seen in porn

Most of the men’s sexual fantasies stem from porn. It’s hardly a surprise then that men want to try all those crazy moves shown in porn movies in their sex life too. Or at least he would like to give that a shot. Because what good is porn if you cannot learn from them?

Not surprisingly, this also ranks among the most common fantasies of a married man. If you’re not too put off by the idea of it, try incorporating porn night dates to spice up your sex life. Of course, you don’t have to go all the way. Dip your toes, test the waters, and see how it goes.

11. Sitting on his face

Being intimate with your partner in a way that involves exploring different positions can sometimes make you feel self-conscious. It might get a bit messy, but this kind of closeness can be incredibly exciting for both partners. It’s definitely one of those experiences that can fulfill mutual fantasies. The key is to stay relaxed, embrace the moment, and enjoy the connection. Who knows, you might experience a special kind of pleasure while being that close—it’s all about going with the flow and enjoying each other’s company.

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12. Doing a bit of exploration

It is like the woman taking responsibility for her pleasure as well. Touching yourself while he is doing you is kinky. Play with your erogenous regions and let him have a taste of it. Men like watching women playing with themselves. It is a common male fantasy, as in their minds, it makes the action doubly hot.

13. Up against the glass window

What do guys fantasize about when they like a girl? Well, this is another common, recurring theme: Doing it against a glass window or the wall, or in a glass elevator, running the risk of being seen or caught. The rush of it is kinky and the pleasure is intensified.

14. Dirty talk

The more verbally explicit, the better. Men like it when you spell it out for them. So, tell him if you’re enjoying what he’s doing to you. Better still, tell him what exactly he can do to make it better. From ‘I want you to give me the tongue’ to ‘pull my hair’, ‘choke me baby’ and ‘spank me’, the wilder your suggestion, the more kink it will add to the act.

This is one of the simpler but highly effective kinky things to try in bed. If you haven’t yet, we strongly recommend that you do.

15. More of booty action

Yes, men’s sexual fantasies involve anal action. If you’ve been with your man long enough, you’d probably know that by now because he’s sure to have dropped subtle hints to that effect.

Now that you know what the most pressing and stirring men’s sexual fantasies are, put them to good use to take your sexual compatibility and intimacy to the next level. Of course, you can pick and choose the ones you’re most comfortable trying and up the ante as you go along.

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