Guys can mess up at times without realizing the impact and consequences of their words and behavior. Your partner, too, may have said or done something that has hurt you and you are feeling unable to let it slide. If he’s oblivious at the moment, you might feel the urge to send him a text to make him feel guilty for hurting you. You do not want to hurt him back, but you feel the need to throw in a verbal punch so he can open his eyes to how he has hurt your feelings.

A carefully crafted text is all you need to stop feeling bad and sorry for yourself and turn the tables on him. Talking about these things may be difficult for you in person. So with the help of these messages, you can make him understand the error of his ways. If your partner has offended you, disrespected you, or worse, betrayed you, here are some powerful messages that could yield a genuine apology from him. 

35 Examples Of Texts To Make Him Feel Guilty For Hurting You

When your partner doesn’t take accountability for his actions, it’s time you send him that long text to let him know you are hurt. Here are some texts for every situation that will make him realize your worth, his mistakes, and how he has to make it right this time by first acknowledging and validating your feelings.

Texts to make him feel guilty for cheating on you 

Ah, the soul-wrenching suffering where love and honesty are shredded into a million pieces. If you found out that your partner has been having a little forbidden rendezvous behind your back, send a painful message to a cheating boyfriend to make him feel miserable for his bad behavior and for betraying you:

1. “I loved you with everything I had. You broke the most basic rule of any relationship — to be faithful. How could you do this to me? I was nothing but honest with you. And this is what I get in return?” 

Yes, ask him! Tell him a long-term relationship isn’t just about being loyal to someone to their face. It’s about being faithful when the other person isn’t around, and not putting them through such a painful experience.

2. “You know, I’ve never felt this broken in my entire life. I know nothing I say will change what you did. But I want to know if you have even the slightest consciousness that what you did was wrong.” 

It is only natural to feel disappointed when someone you love hurts you and betrays your trust. All that pain and angst you’re experiencing needs an outlet. This text helps you get it all out and let him know how much he hurt you. If he loved you even for a minute, he would regret cheating on you. 

3. “I want to tell you what hurts me more than the fact that you cheated on me. It’s how you still claim to love me. It’s not love when you cheat on someone more than once. You made a conscious decision to betray me. You would never have done something like this if you genuinely cared about me and respected me.” 

Send this long, painful message to your boyfriend, as it is one of the most powerful quotes of hurt feelings. This is one of the texts to make him feel bad if he cheated on you because when someone cheats on you, they don’t just break your trust. They also show that they don’t respect you.

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4. “A lot has changed between us since I found out about your infidelity. You act like it was not a big deal. Does it not punch you in the gut that you buried a love alive that was nothing but sincere from day one? Do you not realize that it hurts me to see your indifference toward shattering my heart into a million pieces?”

Send this text to him to make him feel guilty for hurting you. A relationship is never the same once it has been dealt the blow of infidelity. But the fact that he hasn’t felt a tinge of guilt for hurting you says a lot about him and his disregard for your emotional well-being. 

5. “When I found out that you cheated on me, I knew I was done with you. I thought I would hate you with every fiber of my being. But I’ve realized that I should thank you, instead, for showing your true colors. And for making me realize I deserve a lot better than someone who lies at every opportunity he gets. I hope to never see you again.” 

How to make him regret hurting you by betraying your trust, you ask? Send this long, painful message to a cheating boyfriend to show him that you see who he is and that you’re better off without him. But don’t expect that he would apologize for all the trauma he caused and change overnight. 

Texts to send when he lets you down 

Every relationship has its share of arguments, fights, and conflicts. Partners can let you down tremendously, leaving you in a lot of pain and anguish. It could be because he criticizes you all the time or has let you down by not being there for you when you needed him. He may have lied to you or used your vulnerability against you.

Whatever the reason is, it is only natural disappointed when someone you love hurts you by not fulfilling even the most basic expectations in a relationship. If you’re wondering how to make him regret hurting you in such a situation, here are some texts to make him understand that he let you down and it’s not going in favor of your relationship.

6. “It pains me immensely that you constantly belittle me. Why do you always have to speak in such a patronizing way? I cannot pretend anymore that this doesn’t bother me. Please let’s fix our communication gap and grow together in this relationship.”

These are words to make him regret hurting you, asking him to start acting like a decent person to you. If your boyfriend or husband doesn’t listen to you and keeps interrupting you, it’s one of the signs they are subtly patronizing you and trying to gain the upper hand in the relationship.

7. “The way you criticize me in front of your friends and family is causing serious problems in our relationship. Can’t you see I am hurting because of this? You need to learn the difference between sarcasm and being mean. Not all your jokes are funny. They are downright rude at times.” 

Say it so he cannot turn a blind eye to this problem anymore. He needs to know where facetiousness ends and sarcasm begins. Being humorous is one of the most attractive traits in a person. However, being indifferent toward one’s partner’s feelings is in poor taste.

8. “Why do you make every decision without asking for my opinion? I feel like an object. I am not even asking you to accept my suggestions every time. At least ask me for them before making a decision all on your own. It feels like I am in a one-sided relationship.” 

Equality is very important in relationships. When that balance is off, one partner begins to dominate everything. This can soon turn abusive because of their controlling and dominating nature. So, you must call your partner out on their behavior, if they take you for granted to this extent.

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9. “You’re always explaining things to me as if I am a child. Please stop treating me like one. You’ve always been arrogant with me and assume things about me that are nowhere close to the truth.”

With the right text to make him feel guilty for hurting you, you can convey to your partner how deeply they have upset you and affected your self-esteem. A condescending person will assume you don’t know anything about a topic and then mock you for that ‘ignorance’.

10. “Stop belittling me every chance you get. I am not going to take it anymore. You question every decision I make. This is becoming toxic as you are beginning to make me feel skeptical about my capabilities.”

He needs to know that this behavior won’t be encouraged anymore and that you feel upset by it. Whether it’s your choice of career, politics, fashion, food, or movies, he can’t belittle you for the things you like and adore. 

11. “You keep prioritizing your family over me. Do you not realize that it hurts me when I know that my love isn’t being reciprocated equally? I am not asking you to choose me over them. I am just requesting you to spend enough time with me and give me the same treatment you give to your family members and friends.” 

We’re all busy in this fast-paced life. It’s perfectly okay if your partner chooses to spend a weekend with his folks every once in a while. However, if this has become a routine and you’re being sidelined by your partner, you need to send him such texts to make him feel bad for ignoring you and neglecting you.

12. “You’ve seriously let me down. How can you not tell me you applied for a job in another city? It was embarrassing to find out from someone else. I am not asking you to take my permission. You could have at least notified me about this. I am shocked.” 

Indeed, he doesn’t have to take your permission before doing anything. But when two people are in a relationship, decisions that impact them both need to be discussed by both as well. Partners share their future plans, long-term couple goals, and what they’d like to do when they grow old. If you need an apology for the way he blindsided you, send him this text to make him feel guilty for hurting you.

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13 “I got dressed up for you, cooked for you, and even had a movie marathon ready to spend the weekend together. Why did you have to ruin it by talking to your ex and lying about it to me? If you’re just friends, why hide? You’ve let me down, yet again. I don’t even know why I am holding on to this relationship anymore.”

Not exactly an ultimatum but this will do the job of making him realize he can’t lie about how he feels for his ex and that he needs to resolve his leftover emotions for them. Such sad messages to make him cry will certainly help him realize his faults.

14. “Why did you lie to me about that work trip? I just found out that you are planning this trip with our mutual friends and not your colleagues. I feel disrespected and betrayed. I thought we trusted each other enough to not play such stupid and meaningless games.” 

He lied to you. That’s one red flag right there. Little white lies are okay once in a while because no human is perfect. But lying about a vacation raises a lot of questions. Talk to him about this and find out why he felt the need to manufacture such a big lie and let him know he has to gain your trust back after lying for your relationship to work.

15. “I can’t believe you compared me to your ex again. Are you not over her yet? Is that the reason you’re always picking fights with me? I give you everything you ask for and more. If you still aren’t over your ex, please let me know. I don’t want to waste my time and energy on this relationship.” 

One of the biggest ways a boyfriend can let you down is by comparing you to his ex. It’s insulting and you do not need to hear such hurtful words. Let him know that you won’t entertain such comments again, by texting him these words to make him regret hurting you.

Texts to send when he neglects you 

It’s not a nice feeling when someone neglects you, especially if that person is your significant other. Joanna, a 26-year-old surfer from Miami, writes to us, “My boyfriend and I recently went to his best friend’s birthday party. He barely spoke to me the entire time we were there. He didn’t even have dinner with me and I was sitting there all alone, just fiddling with my food. I could not tell him my feelings then but wanted to send him sad messages to make him cry because I, too, cried myself to sleep.” If you’re in a similar situation, we have a few texts to make him feel bad for ignoring you:

16. “You invited me to your sister’s wedding even though I’d never met your family before that. You completely neglected my presence. You didn’t bother introducing me to your siblings either. You have no respect for me.”

Send this text to make him feel guilty for hurting you. He can’t get away with ignoring you when his family is around and for not making you feel a part of them. If he wants to spend time with you and introduce you to people, he should be proud of you.

17. “It truly hurts to see how you’ve been neglecting me for the past few days. Have you lost interest in me? Do you think our relationship has lost its glow? I don’t know what to do with so much love in my heart. Tell me what’s happening and what we can do to fix this.”

It’s scary to even think about your romance and intimacy fading away. You’re confused and don’t know what you can do to rekindle your love and happiness. It’s best to confront and ask him yourself instead of playing guessing games. This message shows you don’t want to leave him and are interested in moving forward, but this is one last chance and lots of work still needs to be done.

18. “I cannot imagine my life without you and that scares me. The way you’ve been treating me since our fight is breaking me from the inside. Talk to me. It will take some time to bounce back but I am not ready to let it all go because of one fight. Are you?”

If you truly love someone, you have to do everything you can to make it last. Let him know you are ready to go the extra mile to fix this relationship. And that he should too.

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19. “I was never the kind of person to plead with someone for their attention. Now that I am in love, you’ve broken my pride and I don’t mind, because I’d do anything for you. I guess that’s why you’re taking advantage of me. I hope you realize this before it’s too late.” 

We’ve all had to compromise in relationships. However, it’s important to draw the line at your self-respect. Don’t let anyone shatter it or change the way you view yourself. If your partner has been making you feel this way, make him realize how badly he has affected your self-esteem and self-confidence.

20. “I give you my everything, and you throw away my love. My heart aches for you and all you’ve done recently is neglect my needs. You’re making me feel miserable.”

Has your partner been taking you for granted? Let him know about the hurt he has caused you. To make someone feel bad, you sometimes have to be vulnerable and let them see how much their actions are impacting you.

Texts to send when he hurts you 

They say the person you love the most always ends up hurting you the most too. If your partner has hurt you, make him feel guilty using these quotes of hurt feelings:

21. “You know how emotional I get about my insecurities, yet you made fun of them. I cannot put into words how much pain this incident has caused. I forgive you. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t feel guilty for the things you said.” 

Forgive him but don’t let him forget how badly he can sometimes make you feel and the tears he brought into your eyes. 

22. “I feel like you don’t care whether or not I get hurt these days. All you care about are your needs and feelings. I feel unloved. Is that a good enough reason for you to become a little more sensitive? I hope it is.” 

Send him this text to make him feel guilty for hurting you and your sentiments. Partners start taking each other for granted once the relationship feels comfortable. This is the reason that many relationships become stagnant and one ends up giving in to temptations and infidelity.

23. “You once promised to take care of me. Look what you’re doing to me. You promised love but you’re giving me agony. Be honest, do you even love me anymore?”

Ask this question bluntly and get it over with. If he answers this question honestly, then you’ll know what to do next. Put in more effort and sustain the relationship because you love this man, or let him go. With such messages to make him feel bad, you will realize if he is invested in the relationship or merely stringing you along.

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24. “Our relationship has made me a very strong person. I don’t want this to end. But I wish you knew how much I love you, how much you mean to me, and how much your words and actions have scarred me.”

Do you always get hurt by his behavior? If yes, then this is the text you need to send to make him realize you won’t let go of this relationship without trying and also to tell him about the impact of his actions. However, it shows you are a woman who practices self-love and won’t bow down to just anything.

25. “The worst part is you don’t even realize how much sadness you’ve caused. How can you be so harsh with your words? Yes, I am mad at you and you’re mad at me, but that doesn’t mean we should stop showing mutual love and care.”

There are times when couples fight and stop showing affection briefly because they are mad at each other. This is one of the little things that contribute to the downfall of a relationship. Send this text to make him feel guilty for hurting you and make him understand that love doesn’t vanish after/during a fight.

Texts to send when he wants to break up with you 

It’s difficult to sit and process the ‘breakup talk’ when you love him more than anything else in this world. You have a lot of questions: What happened to all the promises? How can he fall in and fall out of love in the blink of an eye? How am I going to let him go? You are running high on emotions. It can all get a little overwhelming. One way to work through this cloud of emotions is to vent by sending a heart-wrenching message that will hopefully make him rethink the breakup.

26. “Listen. I know things have been rocky and we barely get to see each other because of our busy schedules. I love you and I am not ready to throw it all away. I know that, deep down, you don’t want to end this either. Let’s have this conversation in person please?”

A message like this is enough to help him understand that difficult times don’t signify the ending of a relationship. It’s when your love gets tested.

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27. “I can’t believe you want to break up with me after everything I’ve done for you. You broke up with me over a message — How dignified of you! I am heartbroken and can’t believe you didn’t have the courtesy to meet and talk to me about this.”

Don’t let him get away with it. Tell him it’s never okay to break up with someone over text. Even if he doesn’t do anything else after this message, at least you will have pointed out the error of his ways and made him feel guilty about the way he treated you. 

28. “Just because I’ve been going along with every single thing you suggest doesn’t mean I’ll be up for parting ways as well. The way you’ve decided to kill our relationship without even trying to make things work is soul-shattering.”

Wondering how to make him regret hurting you? Try being honest about your feelings and make him see how he’s hurt you. He can’t make this decision of separation all by himself, and without giving the relationship a chance. 

29. “If the roles were reversed, I would have given you another chance. But you’re ruthless. You always run away when you see a problem or get into an uncomfortable situation. Relationships aren’t a cakewalk. When will you realize it requires communication and effort from both partners and not just one?”

Did your partner not give you a chance to make things right? Does it seem like he doesn’t even want to try saving the relationship? If that’s how it is, then send this truthful and long, painful message to your boyfriend and show him the mirror.

30. “Funny, I found out you want to break up with me through someone else. The entire world seems to know about it except the person who is supposed to know. It’s not even insulting anymore … It’s just who you are. Well, have it your way. Good riddance.”

I know this situation is sad and infuriating. But here is a gospel truth that will help you feel better: he will regret it down the road because more often than not, breakups hit guys later. 

Texts to send after breakup to make him feel guilty for hurting you 

So, the big breakup has happened. You’re at your place crying over him and you find out that he’s doing well. It pinches. Here are some messages to make him feel bad for breaking up with you unfairly/abruptly/brutally:

31. “I just want to let you know that I accept the breakup. I love you and I respect your decision. If breaking up with me is what’s going to make you happy and is better for your well-being, then so be it. I’ve sincerely loved you since day one, so your happiness is important to me. Goodbye.”

If you want him to come back into your life, this is one of the most powerful texts to get him back (but only if you mean it). He will realize what he’s lost, once you send this long, painful message to your boyfriend.

32. “You made me feel worthless the entire time we were together. But I loved you then and I love you now. I don’t want to blame you for my heartbreak but I will blame you for making me feel small and unworthy of your love. You’re a narcissist and you will never love anyone as much as you love yourself.”

If your ex-boyfriend is a narcissist, then send him this text to make him feel guilty for hurting you. Tell it to his face that nobody will be enough for him.

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33. “It hurts to see that the person who made me laugh the most has now become the sole reason for my tears. You enjoyed hurting me, didn’t you? If I had done the same to you, you wouldn’t have endured for so long. I am glad you took this decision to leave me. I am done tolerating your nonsense.”

Make him feel guilty through this text if all he did was hurt you in your entire relationship. 

34. “I am writing this message as an eye-opener for you. Don’t ever treat another person the way you treated me. Don’t make them beg for your love and attention. Your emotional immaturity and inability to be vulnerable have left me depleted.”

Immature and emotionally unavailable men tend to do a lot more damage. If you bring this to light, he will then know how to improve himself and won’t make another person suffer because of his weaknesses. He’ll also understand the impact of his behavior on you and hopefully feel guilty about it.

35. “Thank you for all the memories. I’ll cherish them, even the bad ones. To be honest, when you pushed me away, that’s when I realized I deserved to be with someone who would adore me and love me for all that I am. I have no grudge against you. I wish you well.”

If you handle the breakup with dignity, chances are he will regret ending things with you. He will feel guilty for giving up on someone like you. 

 Bonus: 15 You Hurt Me Quotes

Want to let your partner know he has hurt you deeply with his actions but can’t find the right words to sum up your angst? Why not borrow quotes of hurt feelings by various famous personalities that have stood the test of time? These will make sure that your partner ends up taking responsibility for his bad actions and does something to make up for his actions. Here is a list of bonus you hurt me quotes to make someone feel bad for hurting you:

36. “It hurts because it matters.” – John Green
37. “I have not broken your heart – you have broken it; and in breaking it, you have broken mine.” – Emily Brontë
38. “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” – José N. Harris
39. “Grief is the price we pay for love.” – Queen Elizabeth II
40. “I’ve been heartbroken. I’ve broken hearts. That’s part of life, and it’s part of figuring out who you are so you can find the right partner.” – Heidi Klum
41. “Letting go of toxic people is an act of self-care. – Karen Salmansohn
42. “Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” – Steve Maraboli
42. “Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” – Steve Maraboli
43. “If you’re going to be two-faced, at least make one of them pretty.” – Oscar Wilde
44. “I still own my heart, which I know because it hurts so much.” – Emilie Autumn
45. “It is not the pain. It’s who it came from.” – Drishti Bablani
46. “Oh yeah, you cross my mind once a week. That day is always garbage day.” – Ashley Snyder
47. “Sometimes it takes heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.” – Mandy Hale
48. “‘I love you,’ Is not enough to make up for the pain that never heals and starts again at the slightest word.” – James Hilton
49. “What hurts us is what heals us.” – Paulo Coelho
50. “Thank you, next.” – Ariana Grande

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How do you make someone realize they are hurting you?

Tell them to their face if you want to get back at them. Many people won’t understand you’re miffed with them when you give them the silent treatment. Communicate with them and tell them how they’ve broken your heart. But don’t make it look like you’re desperate for them to feel guilty and apologize. Tell them once and if they don’t understand it, then back off.

2. How do you act with someone who hurt you?

You keep them where they deserve to be kept. Draw a line and don’t let them enter your inner circle. Don’t give them another opportunity to hurt you. You’ve forgiven them once. This may make them think that they can hurt you again. It’s wise to keep them at bay. 

Final Thoughts

If your partner hurts you, he must own up because accountability in relationships means giving up your ego for the sake of your partner’s happiness. If he doesn’t apologize or realize his mistakes even after you’ve sent one or a few of the above messages, then you need to ask yourself why you’re with someone who has the emotional depth of a teaspoon. There’s nothing wrong with checking if your partner feels guilty for hurting you but sending them on a constant guilt trip or exacting the best revenge is a toxic trait.

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