Staying over at the boyfriend’s place, especially for the first time, can bring out mixed feelings. You’re probably excited, but your mind is also racing about a million things at the same time. Which is honestly fair, since you never know what’s going to happen. You never know who might turn out to be a real freak between the sheets.
It’s the sort of anxiety you don’t really hate having. You’re bound to have fun with your beau, but thoughts like “how soon can I take my bra off with him?” might be making you overthink things a bit. On the other hand, you might even end up building up in your head, the first night with your boyfriend, and now you now have no idea of what to realistically expect.
Whether you just want to know what to expect, what to do, or how to prepare for it, we’ve got you covered. Let’s talk about the things you can expect during the first sleepover with your boyfriend, so you don’t end up letting your anxiety cancel on him at the last minute.
Going To A Guy’s House For The First Time? Here’s What You Need To Do
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“Should I shave my legs?”, “Wait, what if he snores?”, “Is my first night with my boyfriend going to be a disaster?!” are all thoughts that might be racing through your mind. Just like you would before that big interview, try to calm yourself down and focus on the task at hand.
It may seem like the end of the world if he catches a whiff of your coffee breath, but it’s really not as big a deal as you might have thought it to be. You already know going to his house for the first time is going to be fun, the next best thing to do is to prepare for it. Let’s talk about how:
1. Set the mood
There are different ways in which you can set the mood and relax before getting into the sexiest part of the date. To make the setting picture-perfect, you can light up a few scented candles. You can play some romantic music and even have a glass of wine or beer (or any drink that you both like).
However, try not to overdo things. You don’t want to make his place look like a cheap hotel, complete with shady red lighting. Sometimes, setting the mood is as simple as wearing that lingerie that’s been staring at you from the back of your closet.
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2. Take a chill pill
Women often tend to worry about what their partner thinks about them, whether they are too fat, too flat, or just not that hot. To be honest, your little insecurities about your body may not be even a thing for your guy. By worrying about how you look, all you’re doing is giving yourself a hard time. Try not to dwell on it too much.
3. Primp yourself up
Sure, we just asked you not to spend too much time worrying about how you look, but basic grooming is something you can overlook. Do not forget to take the proper grooming precautions like waxing (if you want), moisturizing, spa, deodorizing, and going for the sexiest lingerie (again, if that’s what you want).
And yes, do not forget to maintain good dental hygiene as well. Coffee breath probably won’t be a mood killer, but if your breath smells like garlic, you should probably do something about that. Do whatever it takes you to feel confident about yourself and carry some attitude.
4. Bring comfortable PJs
When you’re spending the night with a guy for the first time, it’s easy to see how you might be overthinking what clothes you should wear. As long as the clothes you are wearing are clean, you can wear just about anything. Plus, if he’s like most guys, he’s going to want you to be as comfortable as possible.
Don’t think too much about what you should wear. Grab your favorite PJs or shorts and a loose t-shirt and head on over to his place.
5. Bring protection
When you’re spending the night at his place, you know there’s a very real chance that things are going to get hot and heavy in the bedroom. So, do not forget to keep protection. You never ever want to be left stranded high and dry, do you? So stuff those packets in your bag right now.
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6. Plan some activities
Sure, you might have all the fun in the world by just being in the same room as your beau. Even so, having a plan about what you might want to do with your partner will keep things a lot more fun. Are you watching movies together? Are you going to go out for dinner? Or are you sharing a bottle (or two) of wine? Think about fun things to do with your boyfriend before spending the night at his place.
7. Think about the morning as well
While you’re planning the evening, take a moment to plan out the morning after as well. Do you have somewhere to be? How long do you want to stay at his place? Especially if you’re an early bird and he likes to sleep in, you need to figure out what you’re going to do with all that time on your hands.
8. Talk about expectations
Sleeping with your boyfriend for the first time is bound to get your mind racing about all the things you two might be expected to do. Since he’s excited as well, he’s cooking up all sorts of expectations in his head too. It’d be a good idea to talk to him about what you two might do, and what you’re not comfortable with doing.
It’s important to know that it’s not out of the ordinary if you spend the first night with your boyfriend without having sex. If you’re not comfortable with it, you’re just not comfortable with it. It should be as simple as that.
9. While we’re talking about expectations, expect not to get good quality sleep
Studies have shown that when you spend the night with someone for the first time, your brain is always a tiny bit awake. Due to the unfamiliar surroundings, your brain basically goes into survival mode, keeping you a bit more awake than you’d like to be.
Plus, it’s not like cuddling is the most comfortable thing in the world, either. Your hair will suddenly become his worst enemy, you’re not going to know what to do with your arms and every time you move, all you’re going to be worried about is him waking up. The first sleepover with your boyfriend doesn’t look too good when you wake up all groggy the next morning.
10. When you’re going to his house for the first time, be honest about stuff
About literally everything. Are you worried about your morning breath? Tell him. You don’t want to have sex? Tell him. You didn’t shave your legs and feel guilty? Tell him, he won’t even care. One of the best ways to improve communication with your partner is simply by being honest. Plus, you won’t end up avoiding kissing him in the morning fearing your bad breath is going to shoo him away.
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So, there you have it. Spending the night at his place may seem daunting at first, but make sure you tell yourself to keep calm, just be yourself and plan ahead. Do all the grooming things in advance and be confident. Hurry up, and go pack your bags for a steamy first night with your guy. Did your first sleepover go as planned? Tell us in the comments section below.
FAQs
You should wait as long as you want to. It could take you a month or two to open up to the idea of spending the night at his place, or you might even want to do it in the first week. Ask him what’s okay with him, and do it whenever you want to.
A good rule of thumb is to let enough time go by where you feel safe and comfortable with him. Get to know him better and make sure you feel safe in his presence.
You can watch a movie, go out for dinner, talk about things and get to know each other better, or you could even go to a comedy show. You might want to plan ahead about a few things you can do with him, lest you both end up getting bored.
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