He loves me…he loves me not. The age-old, schoolgirl favored, petal plucking routine may have been fun to do, but we know it doesn’t give any real answers to how someone feels about you. If there are feelings involved, there will always be evident signs he wants you to notice him. To make your life easier, here are 21 signs he wants you to notice him REALLY BADLY.
He may be shy or just trying to mask his feelings for you. But if he has a thing for you, his body, his words and his actions will always betray his attempts to grab your attention. No matter how subtle or veiled. We all try to keep our crushes a secret, but it’s tricky to be in control ALL the time. A slip-up here. another there, and you can tell if he has the hots for you.
So, if you’re wondering how to tell if a guy is trying to get your attention, you just need to pay attention to how he behaves around you. His eyes and body language will be the gateway to his thoughts. The entire mystery will unravel quickly and you can stop wondering, “Is he trying to get my attention?”
21 Signs He Wants You To Notice Him And Reciprocate
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So you like a guy but aren’t sure about his feelings. Or, there is a guy who has been sending out a lot of mixed signals and you don’t know what to make of them. Yes, it’s not just women who send out mixed signals. Perhaps, a friend has suddenly started behaving differently around you, and this makes you wonder if he is trying to get your attention.
Maybe, someone you connected with on a dating app is not giving away how he feels and you’re left wondering where this thing is headed. Being in any of these situations can leave you in a confused headspace. I mean, what are the signs he wants to approach you? What are the things guys do to get your attention?
The truth is, the signs he wants you to notice him are all over the place, you just need to know where to look. As they say, the devil is in the details. If you pay just a little more attention to the way he conducts himself, you’ll be able to spot the signs he wants you in his future.
A few years ago, a friend of mine was in a pickle, because she couldn’t tell whether her colleague wanted to just be friends or more. When she couldn’t take it anymore, she reached out to me for help. Maybe an objective view of the situation would help! I asked her to look out for the signs listed below, and guess what? She realized he was into her big time.
You can put your dilemmas to rest by looking for out these 21 signs and reciprocate too. When you know what you’re looking for, half the race is won. So without further ado, let’s get cracking on the answer to your question.
1. He pays attention to his looks
One of the most obvious signs he wants you to notice him is the way he dresses up when he expects to see you. Whether it’s a planned “accidental” run-in, or a plan to hang out, you will notice that he is putting in an effort to look his best. He “cleans up his act” so to say. It’s adorable because we dress for the part we want. No surprises on which part he wants…
His choice of clothes, his hair, his face, his cologne – everything is on point. Even the finer areas of appearance are taken care of – his nails, the sideburns, his breath. It’s important to him that you see him well-attired. And if you HAVE noticed all of that, he is succeeding in getting your attention!
2. He positions himself toward you
Here’s an interesting sign to watch out for. If a guy positions himself in a way that his body is turned towards you whenever you’re both together, it is among one of the sure-shot body language signs he wants to get closer to you. He may not be doing it on purpose. But that desire in him to be in your proximity naturally makes his body turn in your direction.
To be honest, the fact that he’s not doing it on purpose makes it better. He may be trying his best to hide how smitten he is for you, but won’t be able to help it when his body gives it away. How do you know if he trying to get your attention? Take a look at how he positions his body with you, whether he has an open and inviting stance with you and how much eye contact he makes.
Once you know this, you’ll begin spotting it with guys everywhere. We’re naturally inclined to move physically closer to those we find attractive. It also means that you have his undivided attention, and nothing can distract him from the conversation you’re having. Isn’t that splendid?
3. He is on his best behavior
Have you noticed if this guy’s behavior has undergone a change of late? This can be particularly obvious if you two have been friends or have known each other for a long time. If he’s developed romantic feelings, he would want you to view him in a new light. Do you notice this change and wonder, “Is he trying to get my attention?” Well, yes indeed, he sure is.
Allow me to give you a parallel. When Joey Tribbiani starts liking Rachel Green, he becomes awkward in her presence. He tries to make mature decisions and do grown-up things. If your guy-friend is suddenly becoming a gentleman, don’t be too surprised. He just doesn’t want you to think of him as juvenile.
So, the next time you see him trying to bring political conversations instead of his usual goofy jokes, know that he’s probably doing it to appear more intelligent. It’s a clear indication he’s giving you hints, you just need to pick up on it. Self-improvement is one of the definite signs he wants you in his future.
4. Signs he’s trying to get your attention: He flashes you his best smile
A guy who is interested in you will naturally experience joy when he is around you. He may try his best to hide that fact from you, but he can’t control the surge of feel-good hormones in his body. It is believed that our brain releases oxytocin in the initial stages of romantic love, and this can often make us go wheeeeee!
Moreover, a smile makes people around us comfortable. Maybe he wants to build a rapport with you…That’s why if you notice him smiling like a kid in a candy store, you can count it among the signs he is secretly attracted to you. It’s what Lucille Ball says, “It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.”
5. He is a constant presence in your life
How to tell if a guy is trying to get your attention? Do you feel like his presence in your life is a constant? If you work or study together, he always finds reasons and excuses to be in your company. If you’re neighbors, you find him suggesting going together to the supermarket or the gym.
And if you connected on a dating site, he makes it a point to reach out to you at least once a day. If your lamp needs fixing, he’s the first person on the job. If you need help moving some stuff, he’s offering his services quicker than you can even think of anyone else.
These innocent proposals aren’t what they seem. He’s always around you because he likes being with you and is a clear indication he craves your attention. Perhaps also in the hope that the more time you spend together, the better his chances of you noticing him.
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6. How do you know if he’s trying to get your attention? He talks to you constantly
Now when we say talk, we don’t just mean making small talk or discussing random things. He really talks to you about things that matter to him and reveals his innermost thoughts to you and won’t hesitate to be vulnerable with you. It’s one of the unmistakable signs he wants you to notice him for who he is deep down.
He allows himself to be vulnerable and is his most authentic self with you. And this takes courage. Maybe he wants your relationship to have an honest start. That he feels comfortable enough to share things with you is a compliment in itself. But as a thumb rule, always trust a man who reveals his flaws over one who is into showy pretenses.
7. If he really listens, it’s a hint he’s trying to get your attention
What does it mean when a guy tries to get your attention? It means he’s interested in everything you have to say and wants to make it clear that he’s listening to you when you’re talking. He won’t zone out, he won’t use his phone, and he’ll say the right things when you’re done talking.
A guy who is attracted to you and wants you to notice that fact won’t just let down his guard in front of you without making sure that you feel comfortable enough to do the same with him. He wants to get to know you better and will create a safe space where you can be yourself. Bryant McGill said, “One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”
That’s why he listens intently when you talk. Every little detail of your conversations registers with him. You rarely have to repeat yourself because he remembers the little things you mention in passing, and you’ve often noticed how thoughtful he is. This tendency definitely checks a box in the checklist of signs he wants to get closer to you.
8. He leans toward you
Whether you’re two friends hanging out and watching a movie together, coworkers collaborating on a project, or two people on a date, his interest in you will shine through his body language. Here’s one of the tell-tale signs he wants your equation to progress from friends to lovers.
Perhaps, he’s considering bringing it up and that’s why he inevitably leans toward you whenever you’re together. This is also an instinctual reaction that is beyond his control. Even if you’re hanging out with a group of friends and he’s talking to you, he’s going to lean closer toward you as if to tell you that he’s all in on you. Keep an eye out for this one if you’re struggling to make sense of signs he wants to approach you.
9. He gets in your personal space
Deciphering the signs of whether a man is attracted to you at work can be a lot harder than doing the same for a friend or someone you know in a personal capacity. One of the more curious indicators will be his attempts at trying to claim your personal space. (Not in a creepy way though.)
But you will notice him standing closer than he used to. Or lingering around your works station longer than he has reason to. Perhaps, you will find him joining you on your coffee breaks, or hitting the vending machine at the same time as you. Are these signs he wants my attention, you ask? Yes, yes, and yes again.
In fact, these will be pretty hard to miss. When he’s lingering around for longer than he needs to, it’ll be pretty obvious. When he’s making small talk with you or even trying to figure out how to flirt. You might just be left asking yourself, “Why does he want me to notice him?” The answer to that is because he’s got it bad for you, duh!
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10. Signs he wants your attention on social media: He texts you A LOT
Another one of the unambiguous signs he wants you to notice him REALLY BADLY is that he starts texting you A LOT. Sure, it is not unusual for a guy friend or male associate to text you every now and again. But if you’re texting back and forth through the day or chatting several times, it’s certainly out of the ordinary. It’s almost as if you are both naturally following the rules of texting while dating.
Just remember that if he starts dropping conversation starters without any specific reason, you have something to think about. Maybe he sends a meme your way, or a goofy picture of himself. Is he trying to get your attention on social media? That’s 100% yes.
11. You make him nervous
If you make him nervous, it’s one of the certain signs he is secretly attracted to you. He not only wants you to notice him but also wants to make a good impression on you. All that pressure to impress and make his mark makes him act all klutzy and awkward. He may get tongue-tied or stutter as he tries to find the right things to say to you.
You may also notice him fidgeting with things, or not knowing what to do with his hands and arms. This is one of the signs he wants to approach you but doesn’t know how. He’s probably worried that he’ll ruin your existing equation. It’s important to remember that his feelings are as bewildering to him as they are to you.
He may always be around but might not be able to have a conversation with you. When that happens, don’t get stuck up on questions like, “Why does he want me to notice him if he never even talks to me?” Trust us, he is quite literally shaking at the prospect of a conversation. You’ve got yourself a shy guy on your hands!
12. His eyes are on you
“The eyes, chico. They never lie.” If you won’t believe anyone else, at least believe Al Pacino. If a guy wants you to notice him, he obviously likes you or perhaps even has stronger feelings for you. That’s why he won’t be able to help but look at you. A LOT. I don’t mean this in a stalker way at all. His gaze will certainly not objectify you, or “check you out.”
If you see him gazing at you in a room full of people, or find his eyes are on you whenever he thinks you’re not noticing, you can consider it among the surefire signs he wants you to notice him and that it signifies he is giving you hints about the same. We love looking at the people who’re running through our mind…If you’re looking for him too, then it’s a sign of mutual attraction.
13. You spot a tinge of jealousy
What are some of the signs he wants my attention? If you’re trying to find an answer to this, pay attention to how he reacts when someone else gives you attention. Do you find him squirming with jealousy? Yes? This is a form of healthy jealousy that stems from the fact that he wants you to notice him. Seeing someone else claim that space makes him uneasy. This is one of the top signs he wants you in his future.
His envy might be equal parts adorable and equal parts amusing. He can’t exactly come out and say he’s jealous because that would mean admitting his feelings. The idea of you dating another guy is weird. So he’ll either sulk or pretend everything is fine. But the green-eyed monster is difficult to hide!
In fact, it could also be why a guy wants you to notice him. In his mind, the best way to not let others have your attention is by having it himself, and he may get a bit ridiculous in trying to steal your attention away from this person. The next time you see him trying to out-funny the colleague who’s talking to you, you know what’s going on.
14. He makes physical contact with you
An increase in physical contact is also one of the signs he wants to get closer to you. He desires a sense of intimacy and that desire makes him reach out and touch you. It could be a tap on the hand, a soft peck on the cheek, a slight brush of his body against yours, or leaning in as close to you as possible. But he’ll also know when to draw the line because he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable.
If you see him trying to flirt with a few physical touches, it’s a clear indication he craves your attention and wants to keep it. Can you sometimes feel the sexual tension between you both? Are you also electrified by his touch? Well, he’s certainly accomplishing the goal of getting you to notice him. Is attraction in the air? I sure think so.
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15. His friends know all about you
What does it mean when a guy tries to get your attention? It means he’s got the hots for you, and that probably means a few people in his life know about you, especially if you’re not a fleeting crush for him. He can’t help but talk about you, and the people in his inner circle have heard all about how smitten he is by you. To be honest, they’re probably sick of hearing about it by now!
Say you’re with him and you run into his friends. You introduce yourself and they immediately say, “Oh, we’ve heard a lot about you!”, or “It’s nice to finally put a face to the name.” The fact that he told his friends about you are an excellent indication of his interest in you. He is already emotionally invested enough to discuss your bond with his friends. Perhaps, he’s waiting for you to give him a sign to take things forward.
My sister, Rose, found out that her boyfriend liked her through his friends. They accidentally let it slip that he was worried about asking her out. Needless to say, the awkwardness dissipated into laughter and Rose said, “Yes!” This story always serves as a reminder that best friends are a great way to check if a guy is just being friendly or into you.
16. He follows you on social media religiously
What are some of the signs he wants to talk to you, but is hesitating to make a move? The way he responds to your social media posts could be a dead giveaway. Sure, you may have a lot of other guys among your friends or connections, but what sets him apart is the consistency with which he tracks all of your activities.
You post something and he is the first to like and comment. He views and reacts to all your stories. Maybe he’s turned on the post notifications for your account. He may well be waiting for some reciprocation from your end to finally slide into your DMs and start talking to you.
If you’re colleagues, he’s going to try his best to talk about anything but work while he’s sliding in your DMs. If you’ve never talked before, he’s probably going to rely on the tried-and-tested method of replying on your story. Is he trying to get your attention on social media? Yes. Is he succeeding? Well, you’re here, aren’t you?
17. He is generous with the compliments
To make you notice them, guys may take the rather oft-beaten path of showing you how much they notice you. In doing so, he won’t hold back in showering you with compliments. By making you feel appreciated and flattered, he will make his mark on your mind and heart. It’s wonderful that he pays attention to you and puts his appreciation in words!
In most cases, it’s also why a guy wants you to notice him, so he can finally tell you what he thinks about you. Perhaps he’s been dying to compliment your hair, or he’s in awe of how intelligent you are. Whatever it is, it’s going to be pretty clear that he’s pining for you, judging by the constant compliments he gives you.
And don’t underestimate how far a compliment can go. Being appreciated does wonders for our self-esteem. A bad day becomes so much better when something about us is recognized. If he’s got a lot of sweet things to say to you that make your cheeks redden, it’s probably safe to say that this guy is trying to get your attention. And while you’re at it, maybe think about your feelings for him too.
18. He becomes your support system
When a guy wants to be noticed, he would go to great lengths to make his mark. That’s why he may slowly but surely become your support system. You need a handyman to fix a leak in the house, he’s there. You want a buddy to get by a drab Friday evening, he’ll come over with beer and pizza. Need a partner-in-crime for some daredevil plan? He is only a call away.
If a guy is consistently and unconditionally available to you, it is one of the signs he is secretly attracted to you. It could also be a sign he wants your attention on social media if he makes sure to text you whenever you need him. Suffering from those 2 a.m blues that just won’t go away? He’s only a text away.
The most precious thing we can give to someone is our time, and he has loads of it for you. He doesn’t make false promises, but actually backs up his words with action. This is one of the best things guys do to get your attention, since it proves how serious he is about you.
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19. He flirts with you
If you’re looking for unmissable signs he wants you to notice him, it may help to turn your attention to his flirting game. A guy who is interested in you and wants you to take note of it without having to put it in words will get flirty online or in person. You may notice that he says or does things that make your heart skip a beat. Or at least leave you blushing and wanting more. He is making a move on you discreetly and gauging your reactions.
His lines could be cheesy, goofy, saucy, or even lame. What matters is the intention behind them. You’re asking, “Is he trying to get my attention?”, and the only thing I can say is, “Duh, obviously!”
20. He makes gestures to grab your attention
How to tell if he is trying to get your attention? Well, he may make certain gestures that leave no room for ambiguity about his intentions. From sending you flowers to buying you that jacket or those shoes you had your heart set on, he is literally putting himself out there with these actions. He is already treating you like a romantic partner. Even the places you hang out at are date-like settings.
Rabelais hit the mark when he said, “Gestures, in love, are incomparably more attractive, effective and valuable than words.” I mean, could he be any more obvious? All these gestures of affection and romance are signs he wants you in his future. Your green signal is all he’s waiting for.
21. He approaches you
Whether you’re two strangers in a bar, gym buddies, or part of the same gang of friends, a guy taking the initiative to approach you is one of the signs he wants you to notice him. Chances are he may have tried to play it cool and tried to catch your eye from a distance for a while. When that didn’t work, he has decided to shift gears and be upfront about it.
It takes a considerable amount of self-confidence and nerve to be straightforward with a girl. Rejection can be crushing but this is a risk he’s willing to take for you. Wow, he must really want you to notice him.
Now that you know what the signs he is trying to get your attention are, the next important question is what are you going to do about it? If you like him too, don’t hesitate in making the first move. He may well be waiting for just that, especially if he’s known to be a shy guy. If not, then you need to pull back gently so that you make your lack of interest known to him without stomping over his heart.
Either way, best of luck — may things work out the way you want them to! These signs will help you for a long time and give you a good head-start on what a guy feels about you.
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