Toxic marriage quiz: Am I In A Toxic Marriage?

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly trying to avoid your partner’s bad mood, walking on eggshells to keep the peace? Does “happily ever after” seem more like a distant dream than a shared reality? If you’re questioning the health of your marriage and wondering, “Is my marriage toxic?”, you’re not alone.

This toxic partner test isn’t about blame or judgment. It’s a self-reflection tool designed by a licensed relationship counselor to help you identify red flags and unhealthy patterns in your marriage. Whether you’re experiencing subtle emotional abuse, struggling with communication breakdowns, or simply feeling unheard and disrespected, this quiz can help you.

Remember, you deserve a healthy, supportive marriage. If you are experiencing any domestic violence, seek help immediately. Reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for confidential support and resources.

This quiz is not a substitute for professional marriage counseling. Rather, it is the first step in realizing whether you’re in an unhealthy marriage and need some external support. Among other things, counseling will help you build communication skills that will help you communicate how you’re feeling with your spouse

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Questions

1. Do you and your spouse share things with each other openly?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
2. Do you feel supported and understood by your spouse?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
3. Do either or both partners hold grudges about past fights?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
4. Is it easy to talk to your spouse?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
5. Are the two of you respectful of each other?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
6. Does your spouse blame you unfairly?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
7. Does your spouse try to take control of your finances?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
8. Do you feel that your spouse favours their family over you?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
9. Has your partner seemed uninterested in you recently?
   1. Always/Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Rarely/never
10. Have you been thinking of leaving the marriage a lot more recently?
    1. Always/Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Rarely/never
11. Is your spouse physically abusive, or threatens physical abuse?
    1. Always/Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Rarely/never
12. Do you have doubts about your spouse cheating on you?
    1. Always/Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Rarely/never
13. Do you feel too exhausted to resolve conflicts in your marriage?
    1. Always/Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Rarely/never

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