How to keep sex alive in an LDR

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Thousands of long distance relationships break apart regularly just for the lack of physical intimacy. Now the question rises is it all about sex? The answer is obviously NO, but no one can deny the fact that sex is definitely one of the prime factor of a happy relationship, be it long distanced or not. As globalisation has broken all the barriers of nation-state-city in the context of career, long distance relationship has become really common and many of them fall apart like a flimsy house of cards. But things can be spiced up in many interesting ways in this generation of virtual communication. No matter how far your partner is, try out this list to keep together with your lovely partner.

1. Sexhibition

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The easiest way to please your partner and yourself is having a “good” time over video call. There are thousands of apps and software now which enables you to see your partner doing ‘necessary bodily errands’ with the utmost clarity. In spite of the absence of the sense of touch the visual treat has the potential to satisfy both of the partners.

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2. The rise of the ‘phone’ix

Use video to feel closer and more connected

Let’s get back to those good old days of the not so distant past, when mobiles were used less like a computer and more like a device for calling. And in this era, something which was as popular as the game of “SNAKE” was… you guessed it right! Phone Sex!! Phone sex might sound a little boring in this generation, but have you ever thought that phone sex is more like a blindfold act in a virtual state? You can not see the person but you are well aware of his presence. His words pierce you yet you can not see from where it is coming.

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3. Sexciting sexting

“Communication is key to maintaining intimacy in a long-distance relationship.”

If the visual and the audio medium is explored, then how can the medium of writing be left out? Sometimes sexting is boring, yes we all agree on that. But still it is better than nothing. And moreover, the discreet way to keep the heat between the partners sexting is really exciting. No matter where you are, in office or in your friend’s place, you can always throw the sexciting words like a dart to your partner!

If you’re interested in exploring healthy and safe ways to connect with your partner, here are some tips.

Effective communication: How to express your desires and needs clearly and respectfully.
Building trust and intimacy: Strategies to strengthen your emotional connection.
Exploring new ways to connect: Creative ideas for spending quality time together.

Related reading: 8 effective ways to make a long distance relationship work

4. Clip your desire

While video calls can make the couple voraciously watch each other exhibiting in a live mode, sending clips of certain acts has the capability of making him watch it again and again. And things become really steamy in that way. Sending such clips to your partner is more like making him think like a Lannister from Game of Thrones; remember “A Lannister always pays his debt”. So if you send one, he will surely send you something back. But yes, we all agree that this is risky business. But the road to the magnificent Ladakh is also one of the deadliest roads of the world.

5. Gameplan

One thing that can really spice up the whole duration of waiting, in the course of long distance relationship, is the planning of the bedtime activities when you two meet each other. Plan your hearts and brain out with your partner, what you would like to do with him and vice versa. What are new things that you have learnt from internet and which you would like to try on him! This option is just like the dash of “garam masala” in the curry like long distance relationship.

6. Blast from the past

If you are bored of the these gadgets and the technologies which kind of dictate you to maintain a ‘healthy’ relationship with a person who is miles away from you and your sex life has turned into something like the acting career of Tushhar Kapoor, then you can always transform it into something like Jeetendra. And for that you need to take the help of the technique of the past century, which is writing an erotica for your partner. Just like Shakespeare wrote the sonnets for his Dark Lady, you can write a full volume erotica for your partner. Moreover, sending it by mail (not e-mail but the postal one) would be like the melting butter on the steaming ‘aloo paratha’!

What do you reckon you would do in an LDR? Let us know in the comments section below.

FAQs

1. How often should we have virtual sex?

There’s no set frequency. It’s about what works for both of you. Some couples prefer daily virtual sex, while others find it more exciting to save it for special occasions.

2. What if we’re not comfortable with certain things online?

It’s important to communicate openly about your comfort levels and boundaries. Find activities that you both enjoy and feel comfortable with.

3. How can we keep things exciting when we’re not physically together?

Try experimenting with different toys, props, and role-playing scenarios. You can also explore new positions and techniques to keep things interesting.

Final Thoughts

Keeping sex alive in a long-distance relationship requires effort, communication, and creativity. By focusing on intimacy, experimentation, and open communication, you can maintain a strong and satisfying sexual connection, even when you’re physically apart. If you’re struggling to keep the spark alive in your long-distance relationship, consider seeking our professional help.

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