Am I Clingy? Quiz

Have you ever messaged your partner for the 20th time and thought to yourself, “am I too clingy?” Do thoughts of “am I too needy?” or feeling “over-attached” to your partner linger in your mind?

This “Am I Clingy? Quiz” created by a relationship counselor who has helped numerous couples deal with dependency and attachment issues brings you some gentle guidance. This quick and easy quiz, with just 10 questions, aims to help you identify whether your affectionate behavior might be crossing the line into clinginess. It explores various aspects of behavior, including acting clingy, feeling jealous, and setting healthy boundaries.

By answering these questions honestly and reflecting on your responses, you can introspect on your own needs and tendencies. This, in turn, will help you strike a healthy balance between attachment and independence in your current relationships.

Remember, there’s no right or wrong answer here. So, what are you waiting for? Take the quiz now!

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Questions

1. How often do you feel the need to be in constant contact with your partner throughout the day?

1. Fairly often
2. Sometimes
3. Rarely

2. Do you find yourself getting jealous or insecure when your partner spends time with others?

1. Yes, I often do
2. It happens rarely
3. Not really

3. How do you react when your partner wants to spend time alone or with friends without you?

1. I get upset and anxious
2. I don’t like it but I don’t try to stop my partner from going
3. I’m okay with it

4. Are you comfortable giving your partner space and independence in the relationship?

1. I’m scared of them becoming distant from me
2. I try to
3. Yes, I need space as well

5. Do you frequently seek reassurance or validation from your partner?

1. I overthink a lot and need them to calm me down
2. I try not to bother them with it
3. Once in a while

6. How do you handle disagreements or conflicts in the relationship?

1. I need to resolve them immediately
2. They make me anxious to the point that I can’t function
3. I don’t like them but I work towards resolving them

7. Are you able to pursue your own interests and maintain friendships outside of the relationship?

1. Yes
2. I find myself not prioritising my friends
3. I feel kind of lost in my relationship

8. How do you feel about your partner having close relationships with friends or family members of the opposite sex?

1. I don’t really mind
2. It makes me uncomfortable
3. I really want them to not be close to those people

9. How do you respond when your partner expresses a desire for more independence or space in the relationship?

1. It makes me feel like they’re abandoning me
2. It makes me nervous
3. I’m comfortable giving space

10. Are you able to enjoy activities or hobbies on your own without feeling the need for your partner’s presence?

1. Nothing is fun without them
2. I like it better with them around
3. Yes, I enjoy time alone

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