Am I Controlling In My Relationship? Quiz

Do you ever question “Am I controlling?” when those butterflies in your stomach morph into unsettling claws of possessiveness? Do you find yourself giving into your overactive jealousy and feeling guilty about it at the same time?

Sometimes, even the kindest intentions pave the path to controlling behaviors. You might not mean any harm but it might cause your partner to feel suffocated nonetheless. Remember, acknowledging controlling tendencies isn’t about shame, but about growth. 

This 11-question quiz, designed by a relationship counselor with a Master’s in Psychology, delves into the murky waters of control in relationships. Take the plunge, answer honestly, because sometimes, recognizing controlling behavior is the first step towards a healthier, happier connection. Let’s see if your actions whisper “concern” or scream “controlling personality!”

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Questions

1. Do you interfere with your partner’s other relationships – their friends, family, etc?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
2. Does it make you uncomfortable to not know every detail of your partner’s day?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
3. Did you ask your partner for access to their social media accounts?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
4. Do you need to know where your partner is at all times?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
5. Has anyone ever told you that you were controlling?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
6. Do you find it difficult to trust your partner?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
7. Are you trying to isolate or distance your partner from their friends and family?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
8. Do you insist on your partner doing exactly as you say?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
9. Do you always want to be around your partner?
   1. Often
   2. Sometimes
   3. Never
10. Do you criticize/dislike everything your partner does?
    1. Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Never
11. Do you make the decisions in your relationship?
    1. Often
    2. Sometimes
    3. Never

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