Do I Have A Fear of Intimacy? Quiz

Does opening your heart feel more like opening a Pandora’s box? Do you yearn for deep connections, yet find yourself pulling back when things get real? If so, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with varying degrees of “fear of intimacy,” also known as intimacy anxiety disorder. This isn’t just about physical intimacy (though that can be part of it), but the broader inability to form deep connections and be emotionally vulnerable with a partner.

This “Fear of Intimacy Test” isn’t a judgment, but a self-reflection tool, crafted by a relationship counselor with a Masters degree in Psychology. You will explore questions like:

• Do you find yourself sabotaging relationships before they reach deeper levels?
• Do fears of rejection or control make you reluctant to share your true feelings?
• Do you experience anxiety or discomfort when things get emotionally intimate?

Stop constantly thinking, “Why am I afraid of intimacy?” Remember, overcoming intimacy fears (physical or emotional) is a journey, not a destination. This quiz is your starting point to overcome your phobia, offering personalized feedback and resources to help you navigate your path. Whether you crave deeper emotional connection or want to improve your sexual intimacy, self-awareness is key.

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Questions

1. Are you able to trust your partner?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
2. Do you tend to isolate yourself when dealing with a problem?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
3. Are you comfortable with casual physical contact?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
4. Does it make you uncomfortable to be alone with your partner?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
5. Can you comfortably express your emotions and opinions in front of your partner?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
6. Do you experience a lower or inhibited sex drive?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
7. Have you had trouble committing to long term relationships in the past?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
8. Are you scared of being rejected by your partner?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
9. Have you had unpleasant sexual encounters in the past?
   1. Yes
   2. Sometimes
   3. No
10. Does the thought of being physically intimate scare you?
    1. Yes
    2. Sometimes
    3. No
11. Are you comfortable with your physical appearance?
    1. Yes
    2. Sometimes
    3. No
12. Have you ever pretended to be interested in being intimate when you were not?
    1. Yes
    2. Sometimes
    3. No
13. Do you tend to distance yourself from your partner?
    1. Yes
    2. Sometimes
    3. No
14. Do you try to be perfect in everything you do?
    1. Yes – 1
    2. Sometimes – 2
    3. No

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