How To Move On After My Boyfriend Got Married To Someone Else?

I was in a relationship for the last 7 years from Class 10 and we could never think about parting ways because we were so involved. But my boyfriend got married recently and I am in deep agony because of that.

He loves me but he got married to someone else

Yesterday my boyfriend got married. I am unable to process the fact that he is not mine anymore. That our relationship is over and he will be in bed with another woman now.

He was forced to get married to someone else without his consent because of our inter-caste problem. His family emotionally blackmailed him into the marriage and he succumbed to it. I know he still loves me that’s why I am unable to move on. I am unable to accept my boyfriend got married to someone else. 

I am focusing on work

I have a good job and I am trying to focus on it to get over this pain. But after his marriage yesterday something has broken inside me and I am unable to stop the tears.

I don’t know what to do and how to accept this fact.

Kindly help.

Dear Lady,

You are right that it’s a fact that your ex-boyfriend, not your boyfriend, has gotten married to someone else and you have to accept it. 

Can a man be forced to marry?

Well, as far as him being forced to get married is concerned, he can file a complaint that he was abducted and forcefully married at gunpoint. If that’s not what it was, you need to wake up and smell the beans dear girl.

He is an adult and no one can force him to do anything. Accepting something means seeing it for what it is and the aforementioned statement is something you need to constantly remind yourself about.

Mourn and move on

If you wish to maintain your peace of mind it’s also important that you mourn the end of such a long relationship. It’s okay to feel bad when bad things happen. But it’s not okay to either play the victim or assume the other to be one. We’re all adults here.

Relationships are not life itself

So tell yourself this as many times through the day. Eventually, you’ll feel better and will be able to move on. Maintain your other hobbies and interests and social life. Indulge in and use your time functionally doing things you enjoy. Also, remember relationships are a part of life and not life itself.

Do write back if you need further assistance.

All the best!
Snigdha Mishra

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