She was a widow in love with a married man. It’s true that the account of a married man in love with another woman doesn’t sit well with our morals. But this is the most unlikely love story that happened between two unlikely people.
How it all started…
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I never thought of falling in love after death of spouse until I saw him for the first time in his court. He was the Honourable Judge and I was accompanying an accused to his court. Advocates said, “It’s better to avoid his court as much as you can. He is strict, punctual, honest, and daring.” I was curious to have a look at him as a rare specimen in today’s world. I peeped through the door into the courtroom.
He was sitting there in his seat gracefully. A handsome gentleman, smart; but I couldn’t look at him for more than 10 seconds, as his sharp eyes were on me. It was the last thought on my mind that day that he could fall in love with someone else while married, a widow no less, and that we would start a relationship. He was no more a judge only for me whom I respected for being honest, strict, and intelligent. He became something more than that.
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The confession that he likes me
Magically, we got connected through social media the very next month. He expressed his liking for my writings and soon we became good friends. I wrote to him every day. I shared my worries, pains, plans, and happiness with him. Despite his busy schedule, he listened to me patiently and consoled me whenever I was upset.
He didn’t like to see me as a widow and advised me to get remarried. The time came soon when we just enjoyed talking with each other. And one fine evening, I found him waiting for my call like a young boy of 20. He was falling in love with a widowed woman. Who would have imagined!
“It seems I have fallen for you,” he said.
“Even I have fallen for you,” I replied.
Love in words
It was the beginning of a wonderful love story. Yes, I was in love with him. I was a widow in love with a married man. I never imagined myself dating after being widowed let alone falling for someone madly. However, it was my first relationship after my husband passed away, my first friendship. But I was determined to make this relationship a meaningful one to spread positive sparks only.
I didn’t want the man of law to break the law and fall in love with someone else while married. I never craved love that had stains of tears of another person. But, I suppose, it was a bit too late for us to resist ourselves. So, despite being deeply in love, we decided to maintain a physical distance. Though this distance was painful, I felt loved and cared for. Every day, at the end of the day we talked to each other, we shared innocent jokes and tried to make each other happy.
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We avoided all those things that could bring us close physically. I respected the emotion of that woman who was a part of my beloved’s life. “I love to see you cuddling your son or caring for him,” he said. He loved to see the strong mother in me. And I felt proud to see him as a man of dignity. There was always a question on my mind: Can a widow be in love with a married man?
As you can understand, widower dating is not exactly a walk in the park with so many societal obstacles and taboos coming in the middle. It wasn’t easy for him either, choosing to be the married man in love with another woman. But our connection was so strong there was little we could do.
We tried to part ways
Two long years passed by. I didn’t visit him last year. I stopped talking to him, giving him a chance to forget me. Suddenly, one night he called me with a broken voice.
“I need you. Don’t leave me,” he cried. A storm touched my heart. The next day I visited him. I met a man with broken health. His bearded face brightened at my arrival. We talked in his busy chambers. Falling in love after death of spouse comes with more obstacles than you can think. However, we decided to stay in regular touch and decided to work together in the field of social work. Yes, we needed nothing but each other’s presence in our lives.
Emotionally we were so deeply connected that we could keep aside our physical lust for each other. Soon he regained his health and I could feel those positive vibes in my life. We’re working together for good causes now. He lives in the hills and I’m on the plain. This is quite symbolic for me. We aren’t meant to be together, but we have our own beauty and we can contribute to the world in our own way.
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Flowers and fragrance
“When the pines talk in the darkness, just remember me. Listen to the sound of their breathing and just remember me. I kept a smile there only for you, wear it on your lips and just remember me. I am here for you playing with the moonlight; just remember me and come down from the hill.”
As I crossed the forest of pine and rhododendron on the hilly Shillong road, I took out the cell phone and typed these words to him. I smelt him in the wind. Did he pass by this path last spring when the rhododendrons were in bloom? There is no end to this love story. You can judge me if you wish or him, for falling in love with a widowed woman. Those blooming rhododendrons are the witnesses.
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It needs huge gutts to pen down something like this… Love is all we need as living beings. Hat’s off the grace of this relationship..
Very touching n emotional story …yes sex is important in relationship but not a necessity …more imp is emotional support which u both share ..I loved it a lot …keep writing dear ..????
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The genetic make up of emotional thought process within a human being preceds the chains of societal boundations(marriage being one if them) accepted by the humanity. What one may feel for another person is not controlled or dictated by external factors for these feelings are generated by an internal source which can never be captivated by any form of controls lying outside that being. The only control is of self, who considering the societal norms and feelings of other important persons(family:mainly spouse & children) in one’s life, adjust the soul nourishments of their heart in such a way that these important person’s feelings and their well being are kept as the utmost priority in their a kind of spiritual relationship with the other. The most beautiful and truthful part of such relationship is the onset of sacrificial mode from the very beginning, perhaps the realisation of the fact that the overall happiness of the imortant persons in other’s life should never be affected.
As far as the frequency of such feelings occurring in all human beings is concerned, it can be said that almost everyone feels the germination if such seeds, many are able to feel it’s painful evolution but it’s very few who can share it with the world, may be the bravest ones.
Nice piece…and I wonder why do the readers have to be so sensitive about anything they read..human psychology is very very difficult to understand..a deep , tough puzzle..let it be. . Fiction has no limits..enjoy the good story, appreciate , move on..if you don’t like it, read the next story ..there is no need to take it personally.
Writers should have the freedom to imagine and pen down their stories .
If this is only a fiction then my wishes for the great way of writing. But if this is a real story think we have to rethink on our deeds.
No woman can digest that she lives with someone who likes other. And they have their right to know what’s happening to them. If you really don’t want to hurt anyone more kindly express what’s going on. There is nothing to be judged unless kept hidden for own benefits.
Hi, I am not a person to judge anyone. I love reading. To read it’s fine. But reality?! My wishes for you. And my sorry for the women who still believe her husband. Think the marriage vows given are already broken. Try to be bit more reasonable by informing a person who is living her life unknown to real facts. Rather than that I don’t find any issues. If it’s hidden still think it might be a way of cheating.
Beautifully written.. But still cant take believe it to b true.
When you love someone, the physicalmpart has to get attached to it..sooner or later. Its natural.
Dont fool us by saying U can smell him in d hills but dint touched him !!
We’re working together for good causes now. He lives in the hills and I’m on the plain. This is quite symbolic for me. We aren’t meant to be together, but we have our own beauty and we can contribute to the world in our own way…..
Written so beautifully……….. its true – it is not always that those who are in Love can be together – Anyone can be madly in Love; plan their present and future and be sure that they will be together one day; but when you are sure that you can never be together; but still continue to be in Love with each other – That is True Love !!!
Nowadays it has bcome fashionable to have an extramariral affair. SHAMELESS!!!! A STREET PROSTITUTE IS MUCH MOREEE DIGNIFIED THAN THESE PEOPLE.
One cannot control the process of being emotionally attached to someone but definitely can control being physical with that person. One just can’t be termed as infidel if one has fallen emotionally but definitely if one gets physical because taking that step is his choice but getting emotional us just out of control of human beings.
If ur lovers wife comes to know about this…what explanation will u and ur honest lover give???? Ohhh yaa u might say ” madam, dont worry v r just connected emotionally ..not physically….please try to find the beauty in it…… .If that poor lady start to pen down her pains into a paper and publush it…will u and ur lover have the gutts to read it???? I HAVE WRITTEN TOOO MUCH…BUT COULDNT CONTROL…
U are totally correct..Any type of affair whether emotionally or physically will be called as affair..Pls give her wife the chance to get emotionally connected with his husband .
HOW CAN U JUDGE…. WHEN U URSELF IS A PART OF SUCH INFIDELITY. IF U WANT TO KNOW THE PAIN, U SHOULD B AT THE RECEIVING END. ANYWAY .. UR SO CALLED HONEST DIGNIFIED MAN IS DEFINITELY ANSWERABLE TO HIS WIFE….I HAD HUGE RESPECT 4 UR WRITINGS….
It has really touched me…..me too has been lucky to be loved by a lovely girl….
* I fell for a single guy and he too fell for me.
I don’t think it’s disloyalty or cheating if you don’t break the vows.
It’s not wrong to have some one you feel for, care for and get the same in return, unless you break the bond of a family.
I can understand your situation and your story is equally touching. If I speak the truth, I never judge people who break the vows. Many times we become victim of circumstances. No one knows the life you have lived. Who are we to judge? And I wish you could be there for the person who was there for you.
REALLY U DONT EVEN NEED TO JUDGE WHEN U URSELF IS A PART OF SUCH INFIDELITY. IF U WANT TO KNOW THE PAIN, U SHOULD B AT THE RECEIVING END
You are a strong woman. I respect you for all that you have been through. I understand it’s not easy, but you make it sound all so cozy.
I am a married woman, I have a daughter and I fell for a single guy. He was a friend in My low times(covered with a smile on My face always) who I could confide in. When we realized, we parted ways.
He didn’t want to come in between My marriage and I wanted him to have a better life(which obviously is not with me)
The only unfortunate thing is that he said things he shouldn’t have (like denying everything that he use to say) instead of telling me the truth.
He gave me a lot of strength, he taught me a lot in life and I respect him more than anyone else, no matter if his intentions were as he portrayed while parting.
Yes I love My family and I won’t part with them but I wish I could just be there for the person who was there for me.
Your love story overshadows the disloyalty that seemed to crop up every now and then. A wonderful story of two human beings who couldn’t live without each other’s support. Being the emotional strength of a person is a huge compliment and your relationship with him is extremely touching.
I think , sex is a part of human life but it’s not the everything. Sometimes , emotional support matters the most. Thank you Hridaan that you have found it touching.
As they say, that truth is stranger than fiction; your story or if I am permitted to say your love story is an example of that.
I wish you two great happiness.
Thank you Antara. I believe that there is still place for selflessness in our lives and it makes the life more beautiful.
Just had butterflies in my stomach after reading this. This story was like a breath of fresh wind. Keep writing. 🙂
Thank you so much Ayushi and I will try my best for sure.