There’s nothing quite like falling in love – one of the best feelings in the world. You feel the buzz in your veins, blood rushing to your cheeks, and your stomach is suddenly full of butterflies. You’ve finally found someone who makes you feel complete and happy. The whole world suddenly turns rosy but oops, there is one thing before that.
Before this giddy feeling settles, you are faced with a real dilemma where you realize that you don’t know whether he’s in love with you or not. Loving him is one thing, yes, but are you sure that he loves you back? The uncertainty starts killing you and you’re frantically looking for signs that a man is falling in love with you.
“When you are missing someone, time seems to move slower and when I’m falling in love, time seems to be moving faster”– Taylor Swift
You get all these hints from a guy and suddenly the dynamic shifts between you two. At first, you feel like he’s acting strange, but your gut tells you there’s something more. Suddenly, he’s Mr. Caring and sensitive making you wonder, “Is he just being nice or is he falling for me?” Now, we know love makes one a better person, but you want to know whether it’s you he’s falling for.
You wonder, “Is he falling in love with me? How do you know when a man is in love?” Well, look no further. We’re here to decode the signs a man is falling in love with a woman with insights from counselor Ridhi Golechha (Masters in Psychology), who is a food psychologist and specializes in counseling for loveless marriages, breakups and other relationship issues.
How Do You Know When A Man Is In Love?
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Women are pretty lucky in this department and are gifted with strong intuition or a sixth sense. You just tend to know a guy is falling for you. When a guy is head over heels in love with you, he can’t help but show it through his gestures and body language. Sometimes, he might just say it upfront, leaving your heart pounding. And you’ve done it enough before to know how a guy acts when he’s smitten.
But in some cases, it’s not as simple as that. Especially in the world of online dating, casual relationships and polyamory, it is hard to tell the difference between dating vs relationship and love vs infatuation. It’s important to look out for the signs a man is falling in love with you so that you can know for yourself whether you are in love with him too.
Addressing the million-dollar question – how to know he is falling for you – Ridhi says, “Unconditional love is one of the biggest signs a man is falling in love with a woman. This means that he accepts you for who you’re and is ready to embrace all parts of you – be it your past, moments of sadness or anger, pain, vulnerabilities, shortcomings, and gives you the space to be your own person. When a man is in love with you, the connection you have with him becomes something beautiful and worth cherishing.”
With that insight and your sixth sense to go on, you may find it easier to decode the signs he has romantic feelings for you. To make unraveling this mystery easier for you, we are also bringing you a lowdown on the signs a man is falling in love with a woman. Just use this checklist and you will be good to go.
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13 Signs A Man Is Falling In Love With You
It might be something as simple as him taking a “wrong turn” on a route he knows like the back of his hand, just to spend more time with you. Or locking eyes with you as you’re chit-chatting over coffee. Or checking in with you to see if you’ve reached home okay after a night out with girlfriends. There are things a guy does when he is in love with you and cannot get enough of you.
However small, these are the signs a man is in love with you. There are many such sweet, thoughtful gestures that can be interpreted as the signs of a man falling in love. The way a man looks at the woman he loves or how he texts her, can all give away how he really feels about you. So, if you have a special man in your life and aren’t completely sure whether he feels the same about you as you do for him, read on to know the signs a man loves you deeply:
1. He looks at you differently
You’re both hanging out at a party and you suddenly find him staring at you. It’s not the normal way he looks at you. This look is different. It’s more of a soft, dreamy-eyed look that you’ve never seen before. The moment you catch him staring at you, he will look away, giving you mixed signals.
Now we know you’re confused and you will probably assume that he was just casually glancing at you and that it does not mean anything. But come on, you know better than that. He was looking at you because he is falling for you and doesn’t know how to express it just yet.
He might just be playing it safe because he could be unaware of your feelings toward him. This is one of the signs a man is in love with you but scared to show it. You can take things a step forward by holding his gaze intently. That ought to send a tickle down his spine and let him know that the feelings are mutual.
2. He spends his free time with you
If he has free time after work, he chooses to spend it with you. He enjoys your company and feels comfortable when he spends more time with you. Even if he spends hours with you, it doesn’t seem enough because there’s still so much he wants to know about you.
You are important to him and he wants to show it by spending more time with you. He shows his love for you with these seemingly little things. So if he’s always calling you and asking if you’re free, know that something more might be cooking there.
Ridhi explains why his willingness to spend time with you is one of the hidden signs a man is falling in love with you. “A lot of ambitious and career-driven men are always short of time because their plate is always full. So, if a man makes the effort to carve out time from his busy schedule to be with you, it’s one of the biggest signs he has romantic feelings for you.
“However, here it is important to remember, that his idea of spending quality time together may not be the same as yours. Or that he may not want to spend all his free time with but also want some me time to pursue the things he likes. So, allow him that personal space and don’t mistake his need for indulging in his hobbies, passions, interests as a lack of interest in you,” she says.
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3. He calls you more often
One of the signs of a man falling in love is him calling you more often than he used to. This is because he wants to hear your voice but won’t say it upfront. Clearly, he misses you often and it could even be one of the subconscious signs a man is falling in love. He’s probably falling hard for you and doesn’t even know it himself yet.
Even the duration of the calls seems to increase. If you would normally speak for half an hour, this is now extended to more than an hour. Most women tell us that when a man is falling in love with them, most of the time, they will call them for longer and not feel inclined to hang up the phone.
Pro tip: If you’re looking for signs he is slowly falling for you over text, see if he slips in excuses to call you. “I got a new espresso machine that you’d really like. Wait, let me show you over a video call.” Or “I’m cooking and it’s getting hard to type. Why don’t I just call you instead?” The excuses may vary but the reason behind them remains the same – he enjoy talking to you because he has feelings for you.
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4. He will be available for you
If you’re having a bad day and want a shoulder to cry on, he’ll be there with your favorite food. This is how a guy would cheer up a girlfriend. No matter what is going on in his life, if you ever need him, he will put everything aside and make time for you. “How to know he is falling for you? He will be available for you, whether it is for a mishap at work or something big that you may be going through in your personal life. He will be there as a listening partner for you irrespective of whether he has advice to give or not. He may even try his best to solve your problems.
“However, problem-solving isn’t the main focus here. What’s important is that he will be by your side in your times of need. In fact, you can ease the pressure off him by communicating to him that you appreciate his being there for you and he needn’t solve your problems for you. This is important because men are problem solvers by nature,” says Ridhi.
You know there is no such thing as being too busy. We always make time for the ones we love. So one of the signs he’s slowly falling in love with you is if you notice that he will shift his schedule for you but won’t let you know. When Natalie started dating Hunter, the two of them used to only go out once a week or so. But when things started getting serious and Hunter got more involved, he would often start picking up Natalie from her yoga class or take her on his morning hikes with him. He just wanted more and more reasons to spend time with her during the day.
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5. Your opinion matters to him
Has it ever happened that you commented on his dressing style or told him he looks better when he’s clean-shaven? Because if he loves you, he will probably spend all his time worrying about your comments. In fact, in a few days, you will even see subtle changes in his dressing style, especially in the areas you told him to improve upon.
Even if he loves his beard, he will be willing to sacrifice it for you because you like him clean-shaven. So if he shows up at your next date wearing your favorite shade of blue and gelling his hair back the way that you said you liked it, then this is one of the telltale signs a guy is falling for you. Your opinion clearly matters to him and he is happy to change himself to impress you.
“One of the clearest signs he is slowly falling for you is that your opinion will really matter to him whether he says it or not. If you tell him that you like a particular shirt on him or that he looks good in a particular color, you may see him wearing a lot more of that.
“On the flip side, your negative opinions will also impact him equally deeply. For instance, if he has put on weight and you body shame him for it, it can dent his self-confidence. So, once you the signs a man loves you deeply, tread carefully with what you say to him and how because he will be sensitive toward your opinions,” says Ridhi.
6. He will remember the small things about you
A guy who is falling for you will pay a lot of attention to what you do and say. Even if you don’t remember what you said, he will. Have you ever mentioned your favorite flowers or favorite dishes and seen him getting them for you? This is because he remembers every small thing about you and will use it to make you happy. Like a hopeless romantic, he knows every little detail about you.
This is one of the most obvious signs a man is in love with you. Stacey tells us how she once told her now-boyfriend that she likes a particular rock band, and in a week, he had a signed t-shirt delivered to her doorstep! What a thoughtful gift to woo a girl. The best part is, she didn’t even remember telling him that.
Remember the brooch Ross gave Rachel on her birthday in Friends? It’s because he remembered what she liked. Being attentive to detail is among the surefire signs he has romantic feelings for you because typically men aren’t too good with remembering the little things like your favorite ice cream flavor or the name of your imaginary childhood friend.
7. He likes to do everyday chores with you
No one is a fan of everyday chores like getting groceries or doing the laundry. Most people shudder even at the thought of these. I mean, any guy would rather play a game on his Xbox or get a beer with his friends. However, all of that becomes a second priority when you are in the picture.
If it’s with you, he would never hesitate in doing the mundane things. Guys in love with you will never say no to doing everyday chores with you because it means getting to spend more time with you. He’d be all accompanying you on your trips to the grocery stores or sitting with you and folding laundry because it gives him a chance to connect with you on a deeper level.
If he is happily stepping out of his comfort zone to do things that matter to you, it’s one of the most telling signs he is slowly falling for you. We recommend you make the most of it by trying to build a strong emotional connection with him. Perhaps, whip out some get-to-know-me questions to turn these mundane chores into fun bonding activities.
8. He makes you feel special
A guy falling in love with you knows how to make you feel special and will have ways to show that he cares. No matter how bad a day you’re having, he will always find a way to bring a smile to your face. Grabbing you your favorite coffee at work, sending you a cute song in the middle of the day or finding you that specific type of green tea that your grocery store had run out of, he will truly go the extra mile for you.
Ridhi says, “He will take care of you in his own way. He may go out of his way to make you feel special, get you gifts or sit through chick-flicks that you enjoy. No two men are the same, and so, their ways of showing love and care can be different too. You need to keep an eye out for such gestures and acts that make you feel special because these are unmistakably the signs he is slowly falling for you.”
Hunter once brought his girlfriend Natalie chicken nuggets and fries at her workplace because she texted him that her diet was making her crazy and she was craving some real food. Hunter took that cue instantly, grabbed some takeout on the way and dropped it off at her office. Natalie was beyond happy, not just for the food but also because that’s when she knew she was a lucky girl.
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9. He will sit through your chick flicks
If we know guys, we know that chick flicks are not always their favorite genre for movie night. Given a choice, they’d rather watch something else. Anything else but chick flicks, really. But if a guy is in love with you, he will be there for you even if you want to put on Mean Girls for the thousandth time.
As Ridhi says, signs a man loves you deeply will shine through in the little things he does to make you feel special. Letting you pick a chick-flick and not complaining about it is just one of the ways he tells you how much you mean to him. No matter how much he hates it, he will stick around and bring you popcorn even though he is completely uninterested in the movie.
Why, you ask? Because even though he doesn’t care about the movie, he cares about spending time with you. Instead of holding a grudge, he will comfort you during the dramatic scenes and even give you his handkerchief for you to wipe your tears. Sounds like love to us!
10. He will introduce you to his friends and family
You are important to him and he wants you to get to know him sincerely. And how better to get to know a person than by being introduced to his inner circle. Don’t freak out. He’s not planning to rush things or jump the gun or actually show signs he’s ready to settle down.
He just wants to express how much you mean to him and that he’s not afraid to introduce you to the people who matter the most to him, his family and friends. In fact, he seems like he is not afraid to acknowledge your relationship in public and is happy to include you in his life, officially.
This is indeed one of the psychological signs a man is in love. A guy will only reveal the closest people to him to you when he trusts you immensely and considers you an important piece in the puzzle of his life. So, if he asks you to be his plus-one at a friend’s wedding or invites you to his nephew’s birthday party, he’s displaying the signs he has romantic feelings for you.
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11. He listens to your stories
Looking for subconscious signs a man is falling in love? Well, think about how he responds to the things you tell him. Does he roll his eyes and move on to the next topic or does he stay for the full thing? When he loves you, he will listen to your never-ending stories without getting bored.
To him, each story you narrate brings him a step closer to knowing you more. You can spend hours talking to him and he will still want to hear more. This is one of the most common signs of a man falling in love with you and if he listens so well, it also means he’s a keeper.
Natalie’s boyfriend Hunter always lets her talk her heart out after her day at work. Natalie is a chirpy girl who only processes things once she’s said them out loud. Hunter quietly cooks dinner for the both of them while Natalie sits on the counter and goes on and on about her day.
Likewise, one of the most telling signs he is slowly falling for you over text is that when you share something with him, he asks you a lot of follow-up questions. His responses make it abundantly clear that he’s truly interested in what you have to say and isn’t just playing along to be polite.
12. He will take care of you
You call in sick and sleep on the couch. Guess who will turn up with some chicken soup to nurse you? A guy falling in love with you will start taking care of you more because he is worried about you. Even the slightest hint of flu will make him want to take you to the doctor to get it checked. This isn’t love bombing, this is just plain and true concern.
He will keep calling you to check up on you or crack silly jokes to make you feel better again. Your illness will worry him even more than you and he will do everything in his power to make you healthy and happy again. Or if you’re having a rough day because you fought with your mom or your best friend did something to hurt you, you can count on this guy to be there to support you.
When your happiness and well-being become his top priorities, it’s one of the signs a man loves you deeply. He will leave no stone unturned to make sure that you’re okay. And until you get there, he’ll be there, lending you a patient ear and a shoulder to cry on.
13. You make him smile
If he is falling in love with you, the little things you do will bring a smile to his face. He loves your lively, bubbly nature and he can’t help but smile at you. Your expressions make him blush at times and he can’t control it even if he wants to. He’s falling for you and it’s too late to take a U-turn now.
Guys falling in love are at times unable to realize their feelings. It is because deep inside they may be afraid of rejection and think that confessing their feelings will make it real. Sometimes, he’s an introvert falling in love and too shy to say it out loud, expecting you to recognize the signs he is falling in love with you instead.
Who said girls are the complicated ones? If your guy’s appearances match the above then they point towards the signs a man is falling in love with you. This is when you should know what to do if you feel the same way. Don’t wait too long for the ball to drop. After all, you can make the first move too!
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